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True. So what to do about it? Not letting them have the photos? This always reminds me of someone who takes away a kid’s favorite cuddly toy because the kid should learn to relate to a real person and not a dead object. We know it doesn’t work. Chances are it works the other way around: By granting a kid a cuddly object to form an attachment to, the kid learns not to suppress his or hers needs for attachment even at times when he or she is alone.
Could something similar be at work with men and their “need” for photos like this? Does it help them to stay in touch with their desires even if it’s not the right time to act upon them? Does it in other words protect them against emotional numbness?
(NB: No implants for me, please. I'd prefer them small and/or saggy, rather than 'corrected' surgically. You've got a couple amongst your models, but I'd never tell who. I'm sure they have their reasons.)
To sort of answer your question then:
Men look. It's what we do. Even without consciously analyzing what we're seeing when we look at a female, we're subconsciously considering her merits as a mating partner...
Ever since I was a young boy, the very sight of an especially beautiful woman puts me in a cognitive fog (e.g., I'm a raging heterosexual). It is not sexual arousal, per se. It is rather a simultaneous gestalt of the body and mind of complete sexual compatibility. That's why we look, and what we are searching for when we look.
But, I do like looking into the eyes of love.
So before we ask ourself what these photos might offer in a weird psychological way, we should ask, if they couse any damage.
Men who can't relate to regular looking woman becouse they watch porn, would most likely be unable even without porn, just by using their imagination or only looking at the most attractive woman they know and still won't relate to the regular looking.
If you don't give a child a certain toy, they will find others. Now becouse men are childish, but becouse humans are able to find their own ways to fullfill their needs. Which means this behavior is not limited to men or children.
Not that men need the low quality stuff nor they demand it. The only reason anyone regardless of the gender would use a dummy is lack of availability, that of course most times comes out of lack of resources. So yes in a dumb monetary system, with sexually repressed society, we need to popularize natural bodies, to counter the existing imbalance in sexual understanding. So few men know what to do with a girl in bedroom. I think this is needed to help restore what was lost due to the stigma attached to sexuality by our elders. Here I mostly see quality art and beautiful representation of real human bodies. I was actually amazed when I saw people who are not considered ''beautiful'' as of people who do not look after their bodies, but regardless posted portraits etc etc. I think that is a good start for anyone how to raise confidence. So you keep taking these amazing pictures your quest is noble and necessary. Oh yes Cuba - the law states, no marketing, no body alterations. They have 0 ads with fake images of people. If anyone wants to regain their understanding about natural beautiful human bodies. Go there, learn and embrace
I wonder. I personally feel a certain compulsion to to stop and look whenever I stumble across a female nude on DevArt, but I don't much like the feelings that brings out in me...a certain pang of emptiness, arolling tide of longing, usually accumulating into a sense of hopelessness before I move on to something else.
So why do I do it? Is it some part of the under-carriage of my brain, a bit of remaining instinct that says "Bared breasts and genitalia! Must Investigate!" Is it cultural, society telling me that as a hetero man I should want to look at naked women I'll never know...so I do. Have I just tumbled into the pathetic depths of recognition that I'll never meet these women in real life, know these women in the way I'd like to, so I resort to the only opportunity I'll ever have to see their unadorned bodies?
It's probably a combination of all of them...but a large percentage of it is the last one. Given my age, my state of health and base level of attractiveness, I'm long past the point where I'd be anything but just another creepy old man to these young women I find inspiring my unwonted lust.
So, my answer to the question at hand is...that I don't know. Real interactions with people will always be more satisfying, I think, but humans in general are historically prone to wanting more than they have, something they perceive as "better". The fantasy and, for some, the pursuit of attaining or acquiring that "better" is always going to be there, always going to detract from what's right in front of you.
But even recognizing that reality doesn't seem to keep us from looking, admiring and desiring.
The fact is that in my eyes, I appreciate that these images exist. I appreciate that Caprice exists. I respect both Caprice and stefangrosjean for having taken time to create these images and allow us the privilege to view them. I appreciate and respect both for have given me something to take my mind of this mundane life I live. This is art to me. Takes me outside of myself if only for a moment, to appreciate that there are very beautiful people and things in this world.
And I will probably think more about this over the weeks to come. Thank you, Caprice and stefangrosjean, for the images you give us to observe. For myself, this is a positive addition to life.
And there is another thing. It's still some kind of a forbidden fruit - pornography/erotic art I mean.
So why do I do that? I gave my reasons above.
So that's why I think you overanalyzed my post; you look for something that isn't there.
The point of my post was simple; as much as I enjoy seeing a beautiful image of a young, human body, I don't do it out of erotic desire anymore. I stop by a picture because I found something interesting in a shot (unusual light, colour, whatever), not because I got aroused.
And you didnt answer my question: why did you think I was a kid? Me being immature, or you feeling somehow supreme to me (as more experienced, adult, whatever)?
That's not to say I don't like the photo itself...but it's a bit less thought provoking than the text accompanying it.
Yes, they are objects of desire and things of beauty. The viewer does know them personally, cannot fully relate to them as people, but you illuminate som of their character, some of their emotions. They are, to extent, presented as actors and people. You make them more real to us than they are in other contexts where we may have seen them. There is an art to what you do, respect in how you treat the model and the viewer.
Little Caprice could easily be emotionally numb, as could we in viewing her, but here she is vulnerable, pulling back some, but not entirely. She is risking and exposing. If not open, she is opening. She makes small overtures here. I think the picture well suits your message.
Bravo, and thank you.
Other than that teeny suggestion-
Again, I love this photo! The lighting is very lovely, not to mention at a PERFECT angle c:
I don't expect to achieve it, but I can dream. Feed us Stephan, feed us the food for our dreams
that's kinda downgrading
that said, feel free to fantasize all you like, just be aware that it's a fantasy, and that the extend to which this fantasy has been made reality in our culture can be really harmful to actual women
2) I'm not the media.
3) Men are programmed to sexually objectify women, whether it's publicized or not, whether you like it or not.
It's our nature. I know you want to be equal and stuff but this nature of ours isn't gonna change whether or not the media shows it. We ARE the sexually dominant, hence we hump women and women are humped, therefore women the are submissive sex, usually. (submissive, NOT subservient mind you, don't misunderstand).
4) Oh yeah, I don't see guys crying about woman idolizing ripped (muscular) successful men, don't deny it, I see it everyday on facebook, as if women don't objectify men
5) Women always want a man better than them (richer, taller, stronger,older) so generally for men it's MOSTLY physical. It's just the way it is, most men wouldn't admit it because it's not romantic but trust me it's true.
I'd just like to know what makes you so sure that "men are programmed to sexually objectify women", as you say.
And actually, yeah you do see guys crying about that. Well, maybe you don't, because you don't look, but I do.
And 5. oh look here's me, a woman who doesn't give a shit about your size and riches, guess you'll have to reconsider that theory.