A few years ago an old friend from the University invited me for pizza at his place. When I showed him my book with my photographs he went: wow, did you have sex with all these women?
No, I said. Then he opened the book and took a look at the first picture. He went: wow, did you have sex with her? No, I said, I did not have sex with any of these women.
He turned the page and when he saw the next photo he went again: and her? Did you have sex with her? Read it from my lips, I said, I DID NOT HAVE SEX WITH ANY OF THESE WOMEN.
I believe I don't need to tell you what he said when he turned the page and saw the next picture. And he went like this throughout the whole book until he reached the end. I don't know what was going on in his brain but it seemed to have nothing to do with what I was saying. He didn't care how many times I told him. It was like he was in his own fantasy. To tell you the truth it has not been the first time somebody asked me questions like these. And of course I don't even know what's going on in the heads of those who don't ask any questions. So let me reassure to the whole world: I don't have sex with the models. I WORK with them. I mean, hello. It's like asking the doctor if he has sex with all of his patients. Of course he doesn't. As for me I didn't even have sex for 10 years.
According to some statistics most people have sex twice a week. This results in around hundred times every year and a 1000 times every decade. With this being said how is it even possible for someone not to have sex for 10 years? How can someone miss out on a thousand chances?
In my case the answer is quite simple. 15 years ago I was deeply, madly and truly in love with someone who wasn't sure if she felt the same way about me. She was a decent woman and that's why she couldn't have sex with me just like that because she didn't want to give me "false expectations". The story went like this for five years and after that I did one of the most difficult things I ever had to do. I threw her out of my life. I finished the relationship that all my friends called "dysfunctional". Finally I was free again. I was ready for a fresh start. I was open to fall in love with someone new.
And that's exactly what I did. Another five years went by and all of a sudden there I was in the very same position as before. I was deeply, madly and truly in love with someone who wasn't it sure if she felt the same way about me. Of course I was dying to have sex with this woman all these years but she couldn't have sex with me because, you guessed it, she didn't want to give me "false expectations". And that's that.
You might ask yourself why I didn't have sex with someone who really wanted me. Was there no one? In those 10 years there actually were two women in love with me but I simply couldn't bring myself to have sex with one of them. You want to know why? Because I didn't want to give anyone "false expectations", too.
Yes, there are other options, but I'm not the guy who has one night stands, I don't have affairs anymore and I don't use the service of prostitutes. And I'm not into animals or children either.
What are we going to take away from this? Maybe this: If you suffer from an exaggerated righteousness it is difficult to have sex at all – let alone twice a week. And that's how I managed not to get laid in 10 years.